Embracing Duality on the Path to Wholism

Born on the cusp during the Summer Solstice, my first breath of life imprinted me as a Gemini. Gemini, which is represented by the twins, is one of the signs which signifies a dual nature.

Even though I’ve always strongly identified with my astrological sign, growing up I never truly understood the significance of how our astrological makeup is a portrait of our soul’s intention for this lifetime, lessons to be learned, qualities to be developed, problems to be resolved and so much more.

Turns out, I couldn’t have picked a more powerful time in history to come into. A time when duality is so clearly observable. Everywhere we look we see a stark divide between the rich and the poor, abuses of power by those elected to serve and dis-empowerment by those condemned and cast aside. We see a fierce resistance from religious institutions desperately trying to hold their grip of influence over the masses while humanity discovers the truth of non-judgment and acceptance at the root of our collective spiritual awakening.

As a Gemini my entire life has been about embracing the dualism inherent in this human experience. An insight from a personal astrological report observes:

“You are here (among other reasons) to develop an awareness of dualism and of opposites.  You see at least two sides of everything and are often of two minds about any given topic.  You possess many opposing attributes within yourself and it is part of your soul development to bring them together within yourself.  In addition to the male/female dualism, there is the idealist/cynic and the rational scientist/intuitive mystic, among others.  You are apt to switch from one to another or to change according to your surroundings, circumstances, or companions. What is true is that because you see validity in both ways of being, you cannot take either of them completely seriously, or to put yourself whole heartedly into either.  You are keenly aware of the humorous, the paradoxical, and the other side of the coin.”  – Karmic Insight Report

My childhood was rife with restriction. My parents, seeking community on the road to salvation, were die hard followers of an Old Testament religion that was considered a cult by mainstream religious organizations.  Of course like many religions, our church believed we were the chosen people that God loved. Which of course meant that everyone outside of our church was, well…not so lucky.

Our church had a charismatic leader, teachings that opposed critical thinking, a commitment to church loyalty above everything else including family and an ‘us against them’ mentality. Very Judaic in our Old Testament doctrine, we observed holy days, abided by the letter of the law with keeping the Sabbath, eating clean meat, not celebrating “pagan” holidays and were dutiful in our traditional roles of a being a ‘man’ or a ‘woman’, etc.  One could say I grew up around constriction, intolerance, misogyny and judgment.

By contrast, my adult life has been filled with growth, a focus on education and deep embrace of critical thinking that has resulted in an overall expansion of who I am. While questing for truth, I’ve explored Universal laws, a deeper understanding of Spirituality and communion with my Soul.  (Communion not through an external authority or ‘intermediary’ appointed by a man sitting on a cloud in the sky but through my own inner knowing.)

I am in wonder and gratitude daily for the vastness of the great mystery and field of divine intelligence that surrounds all of us. I’ve experienced abundance and have a tolerant and loving community of people who are consciously working on their spiritual development. I live in a world where I regularly witness acts of acceptance, compassion, non-judgment and love.

Regardless of how we grew up, dualism exists for everyone. Our world functions via the Law of Polarity which states that everything that exists has an equal and exact opposite. Examples: above and below, left and right, male and female and light and shadow.

Because the perspective we choose ultimately determines what we see – every person is free to decide where they will land on the spectrum of duality.

“Modern secular thought has its own dualism: it treats only the physical world as knowable and testable, while locking everything else – mind, spirit, morality, meaning – into the realm of private, subjective feelings. The so-called fact/value split.”  – Nancy Pearcey

Whether you are drawn to the yin or the yang, matter or spirit, innocence or experience, all is perfect.  Why?  Because “right” doesn’t exist.

Hot cannot be more ‘right’ then cold, male cannot be more ‘right’ then female, spring cannot be more ‘right’ then fall.  Along the way our minds have been trained to believe that one aspect of polarity is good and the opposing side of it is bad.

In truth – they are all just different experiences on the spectrum. Life will take us through all of it at some point.

It is our persistence in staking a claim on rightness and projecting that onto everyone else that we have so much conflict and pain.  One quick review of any news cycle will connect you into that truth in an instant!

Yet, there is so much potential in being able to see all sides.

“People desire to separate their worlds into polarities of dark and light, ugly and beautiful, good and evil, right and wrong, inside and outside. Polarities serve us in our learning and growth, but as souls we are all.”  – Joy Page

On our path to feeling whole and complete, one of the greatest insights we can have is to embrace the dualism inherent within us and around us as we navigate life.

Without resistance to the laws that govern this world, we can open more fully to balance, harmony and the interconnectedness of life…because that exists in everything as well.

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